Guest Post: Valentine’s Day Cop-Out

Guest Post from the Wife

Let me first say, I may not be the norm in this.  However, I don’t feel the need to really celebrate Valentine’s Day the way American Greeting Cards tells me to.  I just don’t understand the need to show your love on just one day of the year, especially at marked up prices, and if your significant other of several years doesn’t get you something it’s the end of the relationship (Like this Pearls before Swine comic).   It’s like saying, ‘you can force me to live in an emotional vaccum 364 days of the year but as long as I get a card and flowers on Valentines Day it’s alright.’

I will confess that back in the day when the hubby and I started dating, sure, I wanted to get flowers and a card and a nice dinner.  But this was more of a way of creating a feeling of security in our relationship – i.e. this guy is willing to spend some money on me, so he must like what we have going on – than anything else. 

My hubby was on his first deployment during our third Valentine’s Day and we were still a month away from getting engaged so I e-mailed him that I didn’t want him to send me flowers for Valentine’s, though I would like a sappy e-mail near the day and flowers at some point.  He e-mailed me back – are you sure?  I said of course I am, I don’t need overpriced flowers on one day a year to know you care.  He took this matter to his shipmates, who said she’s just testing you and of course she wants flowers.  He believed them, and I got flowers on Valentine’s Day.  I then e-mailed him many thanks and praises for the beautiful flowers, but to not waste that much money on a one day mark-up again!  And since then he never has.

Point is, when you’re in a committed relationship and feel secure in that relationship and of the other person’s feelings, you don’t need a big spending occasion to make you feel complete.  This most recent Valentines we had a nice dinner at home and opened a nice bottle of wine…and that’s it.  Who needs February 14th when Valentine’s Day can last all year?

Guest Post: Pillow Talk

Guest Post from the Wife

Pillow talk. I don’t mean that mushy-gushy “let’s explore our feelings” junk you see women doing in movies and on tv after sex (Do some women actually do that? No wonder men pretend to fall asleep!). I mean sharing secrets and childhood memories. Tickling and wrestling and fighting over the covers. Telling jokes and making private ones the two of you will share. And sometimes saying into the dark the things you are feeling that you can’t say when you are face to face – not because you can’t say it to the other person but because you don’t want to see the look on the other person’s face. But when you’re in your bed, with your bodies touching and your thoughts open to one another, it can be the closest you are ever going to be to someone else. (And the other person’s body warmth is a nice bonus!)

Published in: on January 25, 2010 at 2:59 am  Leave a Comment  
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