Become a great lover

This one seems obvious.  After all, if you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with one person you better make sure your sex life is ready.  Now, when I say ‘great lover’ I don’t mean going out and buying some bullshit book about the Kama Sutra or some crap like that.  A great lover is not one who plants a million seeds and hopes one of them will grow.  A great lover is one who takes the time to make sure that when he plants a seed, it grows into a might oak! (Note:  Final outcome is dependent on what type of seed you plant in the first place)  He does this by figuring out what his partner likes and then building off that so as to increase his partner’s pleasure.  This requires that you be very observant of your spouse’s body language.  Women are a lot less likely to talk about what they want than men, so be prepared to learn to read between the lines.  Depending on the type of girl you married, you may find that she is up for anything and will always take the lead, but more likely you will find that your wife is up for just about anything, provided you make her feel comfortable about it first!  Don’t forget, women are just like men in that they want maximum sexual satisfaction, but unlike men they have been taught not to be as direct, which means a little gentle prodding might be called for.  Women will do almost anything you want them to do provided you give them a good reason, and no, them doing it because it gets you off is not a good reason.  If you feel that your sex life is suffering from your wife’s lack of adventure, I recommend two things:  First, take charge.  Women respect strength, especially in bed.  No matter what they may say, they all harbor secret desires about being the girl on the front of the cheap romance novel who gets flung into the hay pile and ravaged by the well hung farm boy.  It is your job to bring that desire out of hiding and into the bedroom, which you can do by taking charge.  Next time she gets home from work, before she’s even had a chance to put her things down and start talking about her day, walk over, pull her close to you with enough force that says, ‘I’m taking over’, kiss her passionately, and take her right there.  (Note:  Make sure the front door closed properly)  Don’t even give her a chance to protest, just make it clear that you intend to satisfy her desires and she’ll follow your every move.  Second, push the envelope.  The number one killer of married couple’s sex lives is routine.  If you do the same old thing it will quickly become boring and stale and before you know it you’re both lying in bed watching repeats of Law and Order instead of making love.  New positions are all well and good but unless you’re an Olympic gymnast odds are that you’ll be somewhat limited by the physical realities of love making.  (Nothing says ‘sexy’ like a strained back!)  Instead of trying some ridiculously complex position like the ‘inverted flying donkey’, mix up her favorite positions with new locations throughout your house along with new, unexpected and spontaneous times.  If you think she’s up for something a bit more…mature…I’ve got one word for you:  Amazon.com.  Remember, keep it fresh and creative and the passion will take care of itself.  It’s like stoking a fire:  Don’t focus on the flames, focus on the wood!

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