Because your life isn’t over

I think one of the reasons so many people fear marriage is because for them the term is synonymous with the idea that they are no longer able to live their lives.  It seems that many people consider marriage to be what you do after you’ve “sowed your wild oats.”  Terms such as “settle down” conjure to mind an image of a quiet life devoid of any excitement, the sort of life one would live after they’ve already accomplished all they wanted in the world.  Unfortunately, if this was the case no one would get married, for in truth no one ever accomplishes all they want.  There is always something left to be experienced.  The beauty of marriage is that you can share these experiences with someone who (in theory) shares your affinity for whatever it is you want to get out of life.  Marriage is not an end to your life (nor is it a beginning, as some would claim), it is merely a continuation of the life you have established for yourself to this point.  If you have decided that your life should be one of adventure and travel, your marriage can be an extension of that.  If you prefer a life spent reading and watching movies, your marriage can be an extension of that too.  Provided you pick the right person you will find that marriage enhances your life, rather than limits it.  Bachelorhood may provide you the freedom to do whatever you want, but marriage provides you a person with whom you can share that same freedom and together you can both experience all that you want out of life.

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  1. [...] Because Your life Isn’t Over (@The Art of Marriage). Many men avoid marriage because of the erronsous belief that it will “end” their lives. This article succinctly points out why this doesn’t have to be the case. [...]

  2. This is just plain common sense. All depends on your maturity level, view of life,and if you are up to the challange. Many are not. Great Article!

    • Steve,

      Great point! So many of the problems we have created for ourselves are the result of not applying a healthy dose of common sense. Too often we let our irrational fears get away from us and before you know it our fears have gotten the better of us. Maturity is indeed the key and it’s a shame that people’s definition of maturity has arguably declined over the years. Thanks for reading and for the comment!


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